I’m a glorified nerd. I love the dictionary and I find myself googling how words fit and what they mean on a regular basis. And so, on one of my usual word explorations I discovered that in the dictionary the word FAMILY is a NOUN.
A thing. An object. (Really?)
A GROUP OF TWO PARENTS AND THEIR CHILDREN LIVING TOGETHER AS A UNIT.
I think thats sad. That somehow language has limited the idea of a family to a thing. Ok so you get married and add some kids BOOM- you have family. Awesome! But actually I believe there is so much more to family than merely just living together under one roof.
If we are going to cultivate a culture of family in our homes and wholeheartedly become FAMILY then this word needs to shift from an idea to ACTION.
Family must become a VERB.
Our sharing, giving, loving, sacrificing and serving makes us family.
Family is not just a unit but it is something we actively keep making.
Every time we make love we make family.
Every time we make time for each other we make family.
Every time we serve each other we make family.
Every time we fight for each other we make family.
Every time we share a meal/ break bread we make family.
Every time we huddle on the couch and share stories we make family.
Every time we cry around common pain we make family.
Every time we choose to speak up instead of retreat in silence we make family.
Every time we engage conflict we make family.
Every time we pray and declare Jesus over each other we make family.
FAMILY is active.
This is a mental shift. Family doesn’t just happen. It takes intentionality and communication. It takes honesty and forgiveness. It takes our engagement and our choosing to be in it “heart and soul”. I want this reality for me and my family.
Start today. You will never regret “making” family. It’s never too late.
Something to ponder: What is one way I can actively love, serve and protect my family with my words today?